We all have specific things we would like to change, aspects of our lives that could clearly be improved. lives, it could be related to our nutrition, bodies, financial situation, a destructive habit to get rid of… The problem is that even though many of us would like to improve something in our lives, very few will make the decision to change and then do whatever is needed, consistently, until the finish line.
No matter the specific details or type of major change someone wishes to make,
what separates the success stories from the failures is simple…
It’s the reason why they MUST achieve their desired result.
And this very emotional force will carry them through all the
obstacles that will surface during the journey.
It’s like rocket fuel for goals, it allows ordinary people to create
extraordinary lives for themselves, their loved ones and others around them.
The one, the only- WHY.
It’s a very important question everyone should ask themselves…
Whether you want to make more money, lose weight,
start a business or whatever else, your reason for doing it
will determine the odds of success.
If you wish to double your salary in the next 12 months, just
to buy that convertible you’ve always dreamed of, it’s probably
not going to happen. The WHY is weak AF.
But… If your wife gambled and lost 50k from your joint line of credit, playing cards.
Then escaped to Spain with her new lover, leaving you alone with your 6-month-old daughter. While you were trying to start a new business…
THAT is an insanely powerful WHY!
One that would give most men an almost supernatural energy
to achieve his goal of financial survival for himself and his child.
Obviously, these two examples are extreme, but you get the point.
To succeed in reaching a major goal, there needs to be a strong emotional
motivator. It acts like rocket fuel and helps us get through the fatigue,
chaos, and obstacles. The tests.
Without it, the resistance can be unbearable.
It’s too easy to fall back onto our usual habits.
So comfortable and reassuring… It’s irresistible unless
the WHY steps in to crush that resistance.
Make sure there is a strong, emotional reason WHY you really want,
and need to reach your major goals. If you can’t find it, focus your energy
on something more worthwhile. No need to waste time on something
you don’t REALLY want.
It’s a good idea to write down the things you want in life,
and especially, the reasons why you want them.
Here are some of the major things I want in the next 3 years;
– A nice house with an amazing backyard
(already have it, but need about 200k to make it the way I want)
– A steady source of income that earns a minimum 100k net yearly,
and can be managed from anywhere on the world.
– To eliminate all debt (approx.. 140k)
Now, the most important part… WHY I want those things.
The emotional reasons which will push me until I get there.
I want wealth, but for a very specific reason…
Because it will allow me to share with, and take care of my family
and loved ones. Also, to help other human beings on a bigger scale,
and animals too! It is possible to help and do great things without money,
but having it makes things a lot easier and scalable.
I don’t want to come off trying to sound like a saint. Far from it.
There are many times in my life when I was a real arrogant ass.
But sharing with family, friends and helping strangers always
gave me a lot of pleasure. It’s a selfish pleasure in a way.
Maybe I’m not such a good person after all, and only doing it
because it feels great to me?? Haha, whatever the case,
if something makes you, and other people happy,
then it’s a good thing!
So far, I haven’t been able to do much for others financially.
But even doing small things for others feels amazing.
Yesterday for example, I was driving back from the city, and
a man in his 20’s was begging for money at a red light.
He looked like he had been though hell. I didn’t have
any change, so gave him a 5$ bill.
His eyes lit up like a dog expecting to receive a treat.
Then he grabbed it like a wild animal catching his prey.
He gave me a huge smile and thanked me.
It was obvious that this small action made his day.
It felt great.
If you can bring this much joy into someone’s life,
for such a small amount, why wouldn’t you?
Some will argue that he probably used it to buy beer or drugs.
And they might be right, or wrong. But either way,
it’s none of our business. We all have demons.
Who knows what happened in this guy’s life?
What events took place for him to end up in this situation?
If doing something as small as giving someone 5$ gives us pleasure,
imagine helping on a grand scale. It would literally make me speechless and cry
like a baby. The feeling would be overwhelming, an overload of joy…
Better than a euphoric, drug-induced rush.
But the biggest motivational force in my life right now is
to become a strong and positive role model for my nephew.
A fun, happy and positive force to look up to.
I want to be able to influence and show him, by example,
what it means to have a great attitude.
Make sure he understands the value of creative thinking,
working smart and training his inner voice to be kind
and supportive, like the voice of a wise old friend.
I want him to experience how fun it can be to
create the life of his dreams…
Then, I want to become the pillar for my entire family.
Be able to help them financially and make sure they
live comfortably. I want to give back to my parents
for everything they ever did for us.
My parents are getting older. My dad’s health isn’t very good,
and I want to start taking care of him in a big way. He deserves the best,
even though he thinks the best is not meant for him. I want him to enjoy life.
At the very least, I want to hire someone to clean his place
and prepare all his meals. And I mean good meals. Plus, first class tickets
to escape our harsh winters and live somewhere warm for a few months each year.
Same goes for my uncles, aunts, cousin… I want to spoil all of them. See them experience amazing things in life, things they never allowed themselves to dream about.
Best of all, I want to experience these things with them.
Like travelling around the world, and having them over for feasts.
Finally, I want to become a source of inspiration for my family.
I feel like it’s my responsibility to steer my younger sister and nephew toward abundance and positivity and teach them how it’s done.
When my goals are achieved, I’ll be the living proof that attitude determines
what happens to you in life. My strength and influence will help reshape my family’s negative beliefs into more positive ones.
By illuminating my nephew’s young mind and allowing it to see new
possibilities and dimensions of life, the direction of our
future family tree will be altered.
Never again will anyone in my family think of saying anything that reflects a
poverty mindset, like saying that being rich or successful is a matter of luck.
Or that our lack of extraordinary success is rigged from the start,
by some external forces.
This fucking nonsense must end.
And it will, once I reach my destination.
Everyone deserves a life of happiness and abundance,
especially people with good hearts and the intention to help others.
And it’s my mission to prove it to myself and others around me.
That is my long-winded WHY.
What’s yours?
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